I tried to give him the ring back but he wouldnt take it
Hi, My boyfriend and i have been in a relaitionship fkr 4 yrs and i lived together with him at his house (woth his 3 other older siblings) for the last 2 yrs. He is the very introvert type and sensitive guy. 5 motnhs ago we had our largest argement where i said that he is useless, why am i with him, i want to break, i want to move out. That was in angry but this time i really hurt him. I dint know until 3 motnhs later in Aug, he was ignorig me these 3 months so i asked what happend and pushed him to the edge before i told me he was hurt from the incident in June. I tried to appologize but he dint want to hear it,so the whole of september we ignored each other. He also told me to move out. I tried to appologuE for 3 days but he dint want to listen, so in the end i told him i would move out in end of Oct and he accepted. In Oct, his mood started to be ok, and he do ask me to go dinner with him (in Sept he went himself without asking me). Buy 20 Oct, i found a room and told him i would move out. He hugged me after i asked for it and said if u dont want to move out then no need to. I asked him to answer my question ” do you want me to stay or do you want me to leave? Please give me your answer.” For 3 days i asked him this question, finally he texted me and said “you better move out, you deserve a better man”.. i ask him to tell it to my face and he could not, then i told him i am not moving out, then he gets angry again. After this i told him since i force him to answer i need to respect it, i will move out in Dec. So the next few weeks he ignored me. After Nov 12, (his brothers wedding), he started to ask me if i wanted to have lunch or dinner with him. On my birthday, he even bought me a present but did not wish me a Happy Birthday (he never wished me before anyway). But when i checked his whatsapp with his Mum, when she asked him if we were both back on good terms, he answered No, she is findiing a house to move. So is he now treating me like a little sister that he is responsible for since i stay at his house, or does he still have feeling for me and is trying to fix it but wont show affection because of his ego?
Josy, Sadly I think he wants to break up. At least for now. He was hesitating because he doesn’t want to hurt you. That’s why he couldn’t say it to your face. I believe him that you deserve someone else, especially if he says it. Not a better man, just a different one. No one knows what the future brings but this is the situation right now. Do you want to still live with someone who wants you out? That’s your decision. Do what’s good for you and what makes you feel good. Always.
I love him, live him deeply
So, I have been with my fiance for one year, best friends prior for two. At the beginning he was in a rush. Asked me to marry him after four months. Now a month after our first year he tells me he is severely depressed. I asked him blatantly if he wanted to break up at first he said no but being me I asked again. He replied. I just don’t know right now. I don’t know me and I don’t feel anything. I was instantly hurt. He then responded I don’t want to break up that’s not what he mean. Mind you this is all in a text conversation because he doesn’t know how to communicate verbally. I came home furious because I felt betrayed and heart broken. The next morning I asked him straight forward if he wanted to be with me. He replied I just don’t know. I live you deeply but I don’t know me. Now two days later I don’t know what to do. I read most of the conversation and the tips only two apply to my situation. I told him that I would support him and give him time but on the other side my anger at this is getting larger. Feel he is my soul mate but I don’t know if I can do this again. I really appreciate an answer beside listen to your heart or you already know. I honestly don’t. Is he trying to leave but to afraid to hurt me or is he going through something that I can’t help him. Should I call it out even though that breaks my heart or should I wait.